Volume 4, Number
4 ( Winter 1999/2000)
ssss Articles
sssssssssBi Definition
Mission Statement, Vision and Governance Statement
sssssssssParty
with Bi Definition
sssssssssSchlaishunt to Write
Column for WI Light Newspaper
sssssssssMilwaukee
to Host BECAUSE 2001
sssssssssBi
Definition Talent Show Set for March
sssssssssLocal
Social Action Opportunity
ssssCalendar
ssssColumns
sssssssssAsk the
Sex Kitty
sssssssssBi The Editor
sssssssssHow Do
You Feel?
sssssssssNikki's Notions
sssssssssBisexual
Politics: Clear and Simple
sssssssssEphermeralE
ssssOdds
and Ends
sssssssss Poetry
Vision Statement
Bi Definition shall provide a social, support and
activist organizational resource for bisexuals, people who do not like
labels and their allies residing in and visiting metropolitan Milwaukee,
WI. It shall work for equal rights and the liberation of all area bisexuals
and others who refuse strict heterosexual and/or homosexual personal identification.
Bi Definition will also collect and distribute information
on bisexuality.
Governance Statement
In order to insure that all minority opinions are
considered at business meetings, Bi Definition will use the consensus process
of decision making for governing.
4th Anniversary Celebration Tuesday, January 18, 2000,
at 6:00 p.m.
Whether you have been to a Bi Definition event in
the past or not, you are cordially invited to join with us to celebrate
the fourth anniversary of continual bisexual community in Milwaukee on
Tuesday, January 19, 2000. The event will be held at the Milwaukee
LGBT Community Center which is located at 170 S. 2nd Street.
Last year 33 bisexuals and our allies had a great
time partying!
This year, make sure to skip your normal lunch and
come early—6:00 p.m.—as we’ll be treated to a complete all-you-can-eat
spaghetti dinner with cheesecake for dessert, prepared by a Bi Definition
member who teaches culinary arts and is a chef.
After the meal we’ll get to know each other better
with a fun introduction exercise and party games. The evening
will be rounded out with karaoke; this will be a chance to sing or listen
to and have fun with your Bi-friendly friends.
To help cover costs, current Bi Definition members
will be asked to donate $2. New people and previous members can celebrate
with a donation of $5, or can obtain the $2 price by becoming new members
at the door.
Please note: There will be no Saturday gathering
in January due to the first Saturday of the month being New Year’s Day.
Schlaishunt to Write Column for WI Light Newspaper
By Steve Butler
Milwaukee’s weekly LGBT newspaper, The Wisconsin
Light, recently wrote a letter from its publisher who talked about, among
other things, the paper’s desire to broaden its scope. Among the
groups he listed as needing more representation were the “B’s and T’s”
in our LGBT community.
Of course that ‘B’ stands for bisexual. And
when Bi All Means! editor, Nikki Schlaishunt, saw the opportunity to do
more writing about issues important to the bisexual community, she submitted
samples of her previous work to the WI Light. She quickly accepted
an offer to write a regular column for the publication in conjunction with
other bisexuals.
The Wisconsin Light editor, Bill Meunier, who has
been instrumental in the paper’s tremendous increase in using inclusive
terminology regarding recognition of bisexuals and transgenders, has again
acted positively to support bisexual issues by suggesting the regular column.
Schlaishunt reports that Meunier also mentioned
that the Light may write a cover story about bisexuality and Bi Definition
in an upcoming issue, and that they are interested in printing bisexual
news. Bi Definition is looking forward to assisting them in obtaining
news through the Internet and various Bi publications.
We are confident that having Schlaishunt write regularly
for the WI Light will provide Wisconsin an enormous boost in both Bi visibility
and getting out the facts about bisexuality to a wider readership.
Thank you Bill for recognizing the need, and congratulations
Nikki!
Milwaukee to Host BECAUSE 2001
Planning already underway for 10th annual Bisexual Empowerment Conference
After submitting a request to plan and host BECAUSE
(Bisexual Empowerment Conference: A Uniting, Supportive Experience) in
the year 2001, Bi-friendly Milwaukeeans are overjoyed to announce that
the city will indeed be the location in that year.
BECAUSE 2000, with the theme Celebrating Our Stories,
will again be held in St. Paul, Minnesota at Metro State University.
This year the conference will be held on the weekend of April 7, 8 and
9, 2000. Look for more details in the spring edition of Bi All Means!
Due to our vibrant and quickly growing Bi community
in Milwaukee, we were approached to host the BECAUSE conference two years
in a row. This year, an informal poll was taken of some of our most
active community members to determine the feasibility of us planning the
regional BECAUSE. The overwhelming answer that came back was yes.
In order to ensure that Bi Definition doesn’t suffer
due to many of the same people planning to organize both entities, a monitoring
position called “Mom” was established. Mom will help prevent potential
negative impacts on Bi Definition due to volunteer burnout or other issues
by keeping an eye on Bi Definition’s “health.” Deb Anderson agreed
to fill this position.
While many of the needed committees already have
at least one person, there is no maximum number of people per committee,
and ideally, there should be at least three per committee. The more the
merrier—and the easier!
All persons interested in helping to organize BECAUSE
for the year 2001 in Milwaukee are encouraged to come to planning meetings
on the second Tuesday of each month at 7:00 p.m. Meetings are held
at the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center at 170 S. 2nd Street. No experience
is necessary and new volunteers are needed and very welcome.
Bi Definition Talent Show Set for March
The Finance Committee (a.k.a. Brenda) has decided
to branch out in fundraising efforts for Bi Definition by organizing a
talent show to be held in March at the LGBT Community Center.
In addition to raising money, the talent show will
give Bi Definition a chance to reach out to the larger queer community
as we invite any and all talents to participate.
If you have a talent you would like to share at
this event, contact Nikki at 774-5055 for more information.
Local Social Action Opportunity
By Michelle Raffety
I’d like to call a specific issue to the attention
of the readership of Bi All Mean! It may not be an earth-shattering
one—in many respects, it could be considered trivial. Still, I write
about it here because as a small matter it could take very little effort
to correct and set right.
I am graduating in May from UWM with two majors,
one minor, and one certificate in Gay and Lesbian studies, so I leave with
a feeling that all of my hard work has been justified and that my dad cannot
complain too much about my extended collegiate life. I’m proud to
have gone to a school that has offered me so many options. I’m proud
that they have the beginnings of a scholastic offering in Gay and Lesbian
studies--not every college does.
Perhaps it’s the result of one too many English
classes over the years but I can’t help being struck by the irony of my
having to my credit a certificate which, as a bisexual member of the “Gay
and Lesbian” community, tacitly excludes me from its ranks. I surely
don’t run around in my daily life feeling. “excluded” twenty-four hours
a day, seven days a week—I’ve got way to many other things to think about.
Whether my diploma says “Gay and Lesbian” or “Gay,
Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered”—in the ultimate scheme of things—may
only matter to the typesetter. But by the same token, if that is
the case, then can there be a good reason not to include all facets of
the community in the progressive tide of Queer studies? (An option I suppose,
if the rational for excluding Bs and T’s is financial or space concerns
in printing the diplomas…)
The last “Bi the Editor” touched on the process
of community building. I’d like to take this opportunity to remind
people that social action is most often accomplished effectively by thinking
globally and acting locally. UWM’s certificate program may not be
part of your degree. But UWM is a part of your community. When
they speak on behalf of “Gays and Lesbians” they are representing—or not
representing, as the case may be—the queer populace of greater Milwaukee.
Anyone who knows me knows I could hardly a candidate
for the PC police, but I’ve taken the time to write Jeff Merrick, the head
of the certificate program at UWM about my thoughts on this matter, as
has Steve Butler (most eloquently I might add). I’ve had Jeff as
a teacher, and he has worked with me as an advisor—I can vouch for him
as a real sweetheart—and I think I can promise you that he won’t bite your
head off if you write him. I think that I can also promise you that
if Steve and I are the only people who call our preferences to Jeff’s attention
that more bisexuals will have to put "Gay and Lesbian Certificate" on their
resumes, or risk being fired for falsifying their information. ?
Professor Jeffrey Merrick can be reached at:
UWM, Holton Hall 330, PO Box 413, Milwaukee WI 53201
414-229-4924 (fax:-2435
jmerrick@csd,uwm.edu
Bi Definiton meets on the first Saturday and third
Tuesday of every month at 7:00 P.M. for discussions about specific topics
pertaining to bisexuality. All discussions are held at the Milwaukee LGBT
Community Center, 170 S. 2nd Street.
Due to the first Saturday of the month also being
New Year’s Day, we decided to skip the Saturday Bi Definition meeting just
this once. We’re not worried about Y2K, just about being hung over
. . . Our one and only meeting for January—not counting the Thursday
Dish socials—will be Bi Definition’s 4th Anniversary party. Please
see the front page article for details and come join in the festivities!
How does being bisexual affect how you view yourself
as a sexual being? How does it affect how you view others?
Did starting to identify as Bi change your view of yourself and others?
What about a before and after comparison? During February’s meeting
we will explore the topic “Sexuality and the Bisexual” Saturday the 5th
and Tuesday the 15th.
“Bisexuality and Feminism” will be March’s Bi Definition
topic. What do bisexuality and feminism have in common? What
is feminism anyway? Bisexuality and feminism both have similar ways
of looking at the world, especially when it comes to power. Join
us for an exploration of this topic on Saturday the 4th and Tuesday the
14th.
The topic for April will be “Humor and the Bi Movement.”
We will look at what role humor plays in Bi social activism, in our personal
lives and in the larger queer community, when dealing with issues of bisexuality.
Humor can be used as a way to open up conversation, as a means to redress
Bi stereotypes, and as an avenue to educate others. This topic fits
in well with our first Saturday meeting falling on April 1st, or April
Fools Day—join us on the first, or on Tuesday the 18th.
An annual Bi Definition membership includes discreet
newsletter mailings and free admittance to all
events. Cost of a single gathering for nonmembers is $5. For information
on yearly membership rates inquire at a meeting. We also ask that you please
refrain from wearing scented products at the meetings.
For information or confirmation on any Bi Definition event listed,
contact Nikki at (414)774-5055
or write: Bi All Means!, C/O LGBT Center, 170 S. 2nd Street, Milwaukee,
WI 53204.
Bi Definition socials/discussions are held on the first Saturday
and third Tuesday of each month @ 7:00 p.m.
at the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center, 170 S. 2nd Street.
January
Sat. 1
No Meeting
Mon. 3
Bi? Shy? Why? Madison. Info: (608) 257-5538
Sat. 8 @ 7 P.M.
Gemini Gender Group meeting. Info: 297-9328.
Tues. 18 @ 7 P.M. Bi Definition 4th
Aniversary Party. LGBT Community Center, 170 S. 2nd St.
February
Sat. 5 @ 7 P.M.
Bi Definition Social/Discussion. Topic: "Sexuality and the Bisexual"
LGBT Community Center, 170 S. 2nd St.
Mon. 7
Bi? Shy? Why? Madison. Info: (608) 257-5538
Sat. 12 @ 7 P.M. Gemini
Gender Group meeting. Info: 297-9328.
Tues. 15 @ 7 P.M. Bi Definition Social/Discussion.
Topic: "Sexuality and the Bisexual" LGBT Community Center,
170 S. 2nd St.
March
Sat. 4 @ 7 P.M.
Bi Definition Social/Discussion. Topic: "Bisexuality and Feminism"
LGBT Community Center, 170 S. 2nd St.
Mon. 6
Bi? Shy? Why? Madison. Info: (608) 257-5538
Sat. 11 @ 7 P.M. Gemini
Gender Group meeting. Info: 297-9328.
Tues. 21 @ 7 P.M. Bi Definition Social/Discussion.
Topic: "Bisexuality and Feminism" LGBT Community Center, 170
S. 2nd St.
April
Sat. 1 @ 7 P.M.
Bi Definition Social/Discussion. Topic: "Humor and the Bi Movement"
LGBT Community Center, 170 S. 2nd St.
Mon. 3
Bi? Shy? Why? Madison. Info: (608) 257-5538
Fri. 7 - Sun. 9
9th Annual Midwest BECAUSE Conference, St. Paul, MN, Info: (612)
822-0127 X503
Sat. 8 @ 7 P.M.
Gemini Gender Group meeting. Info: 297-9328.
Tues. 18 @ 7 P.M. Bi Definition Social/Discussion.
Topic: "Humor and the Bi Movement" LGBT Community Center,
170 S. 2nd St.
Weekly
Thursdays 7-9 P.M. Bi Definition Bar Social, Dish,
235 S. 2nd St.
One good thing about the holiday season—it means
we’ve reached the darkest days and it will only get lighter from here on
out. I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time with the short
days and long nights of December.
As we move into the winter season, I always find
myself turning inward, contemplating the softer, darker, fuzzier things
like feelings. I usually take stock at this time of the year.
This year, I find myself doing the same with Bi Definition: How are we
doing? How are we feelings? Where have we been and where are
we going? What do we want and what do we need?
In part this has been evoked by the fact that Brenda
and I have been taking a group facilitation class. We’ve talked a
lot about feelings, thoughts, and about wants and needs. We have
been challenged to be truthful with ourselves and with others, and we have
learned ways to do this respectfully and with care.
I hope Brenda and I can bring back these gifts to
the larger Bi Definition community. So, in the coming months, expect
to be challenged—hopefully, respectfully, and with care.
I hope to see everyone at all the exciting Bi Definition
events coming up—the 4th Anniversary Party in January, the talent show
and barn dance fundraisers in March and May, and at the BECAUSE conference
in April in Minneapolis.
Bi for now
Nikki
The following column is designed to help those who have a desire to make a difference for the bisexual community without getting over extended, bored or confused.
The Early Stages of an Independent, Bi-focused Movement
Regular readers of this column are sure to notice
some changes to its header and introductory paragraph. What used
to be “Rainbow Politics” is now “Bisexual Politics.” The accompanying
flag has changed to a black and white version of the new bisexual pride
flag, and the descriptive intro now speaks to helping the bisexual community
specifically.
Why the change? Am I turning my back on the
rest of the LGT community? Has bitterness pushed me over the edge?
The respective answers are no, and partially.
No, because in addition to continuing to believe
that we should remain pushing for bisexual inclusion in the queer community,
gay/lesbian and transgendered persons deserve our allegiance as allies
in a similar struggle. And yes, I may be a bit bitter due to institutionalized
monosexualism.
These column changes are my initial steps towards
refocusing and emphasizing bisexuality.
Ever since bisexuals began organizing as a community,
we activists have been stepping all ourselves trying to be as concerned
as humanly possible about every other marginalized group imaginable.
Because of this, a true “break through” of bisexual understanding is continually
hindered by our own extreme passion to never, ever, ever forget anyone.
The bisexual movement has become a multicultural
obsessed quagmire! Our bisexual leadership continually tells our
activists to always remember to never forget to reach out to all “sub-groups”
at all times. Just some of these communities are: gay men, lesbians
and straight people; religious and irreligious people of all persuasions;
all ethnic groups; polyamorists, monogamists, and those choosing not to
be in a relationship; people with environmental health concerns; the economically
challenged; and the young and older. In addition we should assume
nothing about anyone at any time, but should always use all-encompassing
language!
Whew! While I certainly agree with all of
the above progressive issues, it hardly leaves time to concentrate on teaching
the facts of bisexuality to a public that is apathetic about it at best.
This is also one reason why many bisexual activists burnout.
I submit that the Bi movement should revert back
to what every other movement does, and that is to focus on what is our
cause. Everything else should come thereafter. Why do we come
together in the first place? Because bisexuality is different than
and has issues beyond monosexuality. When new people see our group’s
advertisements in the media and through word of mouth, they come because
of bisexuality—not to be able to assist all kinds of other causes.
I have actually attended Bi meetings where almost
half of the allotted time goes to such things as establishing ground rules,
reaching out to communities who routinely ignore us, and being told to
be good allies to those who don’t even know or care that there is a bisexual
community. All the while, new folks are rolling their eyes or trying
to appear still interested and getting quickly turned off. They came
to find out about their orientation or to jump on board as a Bi activist,
and we end up losing them.
When it’s taken into consideration that almost all
bisexual groups use some version of the respectful but very slow consensus
process, I think it wouldn’t be much of a stretch to say that no other
community is so weighed down before they even begin.
I’m not alone in advocating for the bisexual movement
to become more “selfish.”
Liz Highleyman, an associate editor of the book,
Bisexual Politics: Theories, Queeries and Visions, is perhaps the earliest
and most notable proponent of a more self-focused Bi movement. Former
BiNet News editor, Wendy Curry, recently facilitated a workshop in Houston
debating this issue. Additionally, I have had communications with
other Bi activists, who have also started leaning towards emphasizing the
advancement of bisexuality as a social issue over coalition building type
activities.
I believe that we could gain much more strength
in numbers and advancement more quickly by concentrating our efforts on
getting out the facts on a larger scale first and foremost.
For example, wouldn’t the Bi movement be better
served by undertaking more aggressive steps such as a national public service
announcement campaign similar to the way the dairy and meat industries
turned their public images around? Remember, “Got milk?” How
about, “Pork—the other white meat.” These were highly successful
campaigns, increasing both consumption and image.
If bisexuality were to receive even one eighth of
the benefit of these two ambitious endeavors, the allies that bisexuals
have so desperately been trying to get to give us the time of day would
be buying us watches.
While it’s true that our movement doesn’t have anywhere
near the financial resources that these two industry giants have, why couldn’t
we at least attempt some damage control on trash TV like the Jerry Springer
show?
This is the kind of visionary thinking that the
national bisexual movement needs in order to be seen as a legitimate group,
deserving of respect.
Sadly, there is not yet enough people at the national
level constructively thinking about other ways to kick into high gear this
kind of empowerment. But that shouldn’t stop Bi’s at the local and
regional levels from doing what is best for us here at the grassroots.
Or we can just go on being concerned about everyone else first.
The Words We Choose
“Politically correct” or PC has gotten a bad rap
recently and it seems like everyone has unquestioningly jumped on the anti-PC
bandwagon. This can be seen in the plethora of ludicrous PC terms
that cynical scoffers have spewed out, including “vertically challenged”
(short), “residentially challenged” (homeless), and my personal favorite
“pharmaceutically gifted” (drug addict). Sure, these are good for
a laugh and, being vertically challenged myself, can help us laugh at ourselves.
But the anti-PC rhetoric has a mean-spirited core.
PC is not a set list of “do” words and “don’t” words.
Anytime
PC is used as a means to censor people and shut down communication—whether
done by the far right or the far left—then it is not true PC. PC
is about facilitating communication—honest, open and respectful communication.
This can’t be done by inflexibly setting up some words as “correct” and
others are “wrong.”
Politically correctness is both simpler and more
comples than that; PC is an attitude—being considerate and respectful of
others. We must be flexible enough and care enough to ask:
How do people want to be addressed? In what way can we use our words
to make people feel safe and accepted?
The opposite question can be asked: In what way
can we use our words to make people feel attacked and ridiculed?
We all know what happens when people feel attacked and ridiculed—broken
trust, fragmentation of community, breakdown of communication, and a cycle
that can degenerate into hate and end in violence. Think of Columbine
High School. Think of Mathew Shepherd.
The far right, one of the most vitriolic sectors
when it comes to PC, operates exactly along these lines. They use
their words to break trust, fragment community, impede communication, or
in other words, to divide and conquer. These things breed hatred
and violence that affects all of us—queer and straight, men and women,
rich and poor, all races, all religions/beliefs.
There may not be much we can do about violence in
our society, or at least there may not be much we can do to make large
impacts or changes. We can, however, control what we do and what
we say. The words we choose can help make this world a safe and accepting
place, or we can choose words that contribute to meanness, violence and
hatred. Either way, we have to live here.
PC is easy. Just ask yourself, “Am I choosing
these words out of respect for others?” If the answer is yes, then
you are choosing words that contribute to peace. Your intent will
almost always be noticed and appreciated, even if your words are not exactly
what the other person wanted. Respectful, caring words can open the
door to true communication and pave the way to real understanding.
This is where peace begins.
New bisexual writers emerge regularly and claim their place in Bi All Means!. They may stay as columnists or only momentarily delight us with their vision. We are very pleased to introduce them here.
On Being Invisible
by Dandelion
Some years ago, while visiting friends in Milwaukee,
I was invited to go to the first Gay Pride Parade here. I was invited,
not because I was Bi (though that was no secret), but because my friends,
with the other organizers of the event, wanting as large a turn-out as
possible, asked all of their open-minded friends, gay or straight, to come.
It was quite obvious that they weren't asking me
to come help fight for "our" freedom; instead they were asking me to show
up to help in the fight for their rights. The fact that I was only visiting
Milwaukee then was more pertinent, to them, than my sexuality. You see,
back then, many gays and lesbians, afraid to lose jobs or family, went
to the Pride parade in cities other than their own, fighting for visibility
and acceptance where they wouldn't be recognized. They would be visible--but
only to strangers.
But over time I have become uncomfortable with being
invisible.
I'm tired of hearing that people like me "just don't
exist", or that we're "just confused", or that we "just never grew up".
I'm tired of the assumption that if we don't choose just one gender to
be attracted to, we're "just promiscuous sluts with no morals who would
sleep with anything". But most of all, I'm tired of the fear that if a
friend should learn about my sexuality, I'd lose that friend.
Like I said before, I don't make a secret of being
Bi--but it also isn't a topic that is on my top ten list of things to talk
about with new acquaintances. It's invisible. Other things that people
have prejudices about are visible--skin color, for example. If someone
can't stand people with my skin color, they won't become my friend in the
first place.
It is sad to think that there might be someone out
there who never became my friend only because of the color of my skin,
but that is a gentle sadness, easy to dismiss in favor of focusing on actual
friends. The pain is far worse when it becomes clear that the person who
accepted me as a friend did so only because they believed I had the same
sexual orientation as they have--when a specific and treasured person suddenly
pushes me away.
Many people want bisexuality to stay invisible,
or to not exist at all. "Don't flaunt your sexuality" they say, and never
mind that they feel perfectly comfortable going to a movie and necking,
kissing a date good night on a porch or street, and publishing their upcoming
weddings in the local papers--inviting their God and the rest of the world
to bear witness to their sexuality.
But hiding doesn't work. Not unless you want to
lie about whether you care for someone, not unless you can pretend your
whole life long to be something you're not. Frankly, I'm not a good enough
actor to convince people I don't care about someone that I love.
There are other reasons why pretense, which is basically
lying to people, doesn't work. People don't trust you if they find out
you've lied to them--or if they believe you've lied to them. Simply omitting
to tell them something they think is very important can leave them feeling
lied to and result in them not trusting you any more. Friendships and business
acquaintances both are pretty inadequate if there's no trust.
On the other hand, with a topic as private as sex,
shouting from the mountaintops doesn't work well either.
I don't have all the answers. I just want it to
be OK for me to be me. And being visible is at least a small step in that
direction.
Dear Sex Kitty,
If you use a clit clip too often, can it stretch
out your clit?
Signed,
Clitorally Confused
Dear Clitorally Confused,
How much clit could a clit clip clip if a clit clip
could clip clit? Yeah . . . say that fast five times . . . with a clit
clip in your mouth.
I must introduce my silent partner in this column,
who gives me wonderful, thorough, medically sound advice. His name is Dr.
Strangelove and yes, girls and boys, he is a bonafide doctor (and he's
cute!). Dr. Strangelove says you would have to do an awful lot of
pulling, like A LOT—daily, constantly, without interruption—to stretch
out your little clit. So stretch, pull, twist and turn to your little heart’s
desire.
Dear Sex Kitty,
I’m a girl wanting to know how to romance a girl.
It seems like we’re always waiting for the other person to make the first
move!
Signed,
Tired of Waiting
Dear TOW,
So you've come to the Kitty for romance help. Well,
you're barking up the wrong tree, sister. Do I look like a girl? or a boy?
I don't think so. Just call me Kitty.
Actually, my dear, I've romanced a girl or two in
my time. All I can say is that you must push onward, push upward and go
where no man has gone before...Look, TOW, get some spanky new toys. Pull
on her titties. Basically, babe, get some balls. Shit, you only live life
once so take it by the clit. What's the worst she's going to do? Laugh
in your face? If that happens, just slap the silly bitch and tell her you
are the best thing that will ever walk into her life, and does she know
that, and can't she see you are as finest damn woman this side of Lake
Michigan?
Or you could just stand in the corner and pick your
nose. Your choice. Kitty only helps those who help themselves.
I'm about clitted out. Remember . . . always use a condom (refer to back issue #13 for dental dam condom info). One in five people have herpes—FUN. On that note, be careful out there-
Kitty
My most romantic scenario involves moonlight and sitting dangerously
close to someone you’re attracted to on the beach by Lake Michigan.
Nadine
Milwaukee
A people pile with arms and legs intertwined and faces close to bodies.
John
Milwaukee
My most romantic scenario is being with another woman showing how to
make love. She would show me how it feels and teach me how to make
love to her.
Brenda Hanus
Milwaukee
Together
By Angelica Dawn
He
She
He, She
She, He & Me
He, Me & She
She, Herself
He, Himself
Me, Myself & I
He, She, Me & Ye
Me, Ye & Thee
She, He, Me, Ye, Thee & We
Ye, We, Thee & They
Me, She, He, They & We
We, He, They & Them
She, He, We, Me, They, Them & Their
Me, We, Them, They & Our
We, They, Them, Our & Your
Them, They, Our, Your & You
Me, We, He, She, Our, You, Your, Their, They, Them, Thee & Ye
However mixed it’s all together
Doppelgangers
by Deirdre M. Murphy
My rival stares back at me
From the mirror of your eyes,
To me she seems warped, not true to life,
Not true to me, anyway.
To you, however,
The real me is the distortion—
I can't live up to the vision that you see.
I have my own needs and dreams; my rival has only yours.
I reach to you, try to show you the real me,
Try one last time for you and me to be us,
You shout of my "betrayal" and I cry,
It was really her you loved, all along.
I can see my rival in any mirror, now,
And I cannot bear, any longer, the hurt I feel
When you stub your heart on the reality of me
And cannot pretend my rival and my self are one.
You try to insist that we should become one,
Have always been one, my rival and myself.
I thought you knew you lose both forever
If you force doppelgangers together.
